Cooking:
Just as scientists get differing results depending upon the mood they are
in when working with cell forms, so the love of a woman.(or
even a chef).can
be told by the food prepared. The love is transferred into the food, providing
joy and confidence to those who eat what has been prepared in love.
Cooking has been said to
be the highest art form as food becomes and sustains our
living cells. Food and its preparation changes temperament.
Eating the right foods for a peaceful life is important.
Try, as best you know how,
to see the motives of the other. Some women get to you through affecting
your ego. Some men get to women by interest and charm. Both are fine,.but,
what are the motives for actions, is the question. Seek another's heart
and you will find it. Seek your own pleasure and you will never see another's
heart.
The domestic violence problem
surfaces when the tongue is used in a confrontational,
rather
than a humble and helpful way.
You cannot have much peace
knowing the other does not approve of you:.Proverbs
15:1,2 "A soft answer turns away wrath, but grievous words stir up
anger.(see
'watching your words').
The tongue of the wise uses knowledge aright, but the
mouth of fools.(ever
watch the Jerry Springer show? Apart from some of Jerry's advice, how much
else is worthwhile?) pours out foolishness."
Arguments
often start because of an attitude where one believes he or she is right
and this is an adversarial.stance
one foolishly has taken. It engenders.strife:.Matthew
5:25 "Agree with your adversary
quickly, while you are in the way with him, lest at any time the adversary
deliver you to the judge and the judge deliver you to the officer and you
be cast into prison." Mind you; daytime TV
is not a total loss. Seven states are using it to replace capital punishment!
Matthew
5:5 "Blessed are the meek for they shall
inherit the Earth." Matthew 5:13 "You
are the salt of the Earth. But if the salt has lost his savour, wherewith
shall it be salted? It is thenceforth good for nothing, but to be cast
out and to be trodden under foot of men." Romans
12:18 "If it be possible, as much as lies in you, live peaceably with
all men." Proverbs 15:1 "A soft
answer turns away wrath but grievous words stir up anger." Philippians
2:3 Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory, but in lowliness
of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.
All life's circumstances
are to reveal to you your character, so you can see how you are and change
the things that aren't good:.1Peter
1:7 "That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of
gold that perishs, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise
and honour and glory at the appearing of Emmanuel Christ." Ephesians
6:13 "Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that you may
be able to withstand in the evil day and having done all, to stand."
Watch your tongue!.Matthew
12:36. These guys didn't:.John
7:7.
Some things one should decide
to never say or do.(see
'conversation').are
the put downs and the things which connote
one's selfish discontentment and the angry arguing
that only ignorant
humans engage in:.1Peter
3:9.
A
fool is one who has allowed his ego
to hold him at that level, disallowing his or her learning about
higher consciousness considerations.
Beware.of
fools.
The medical system, today
mostly doing as best they can or as much as they are allowed to at the
patient help level, was in its initial
development something to beware
of. And even today, apart from the skill of some doctors, nurses, etc.,
it's best to be wary.
The life of fools will show history of missing the quest
for higher values:.Jeremiah
5:4-11. The tricks of the dark side
are rampant
in the lives of those of low consciousness.
Take for example, the
developmental stages of medicine. Myopic
approaches showed forth the fools using them.
Arguing is the way a fool
uses to defend the temporary he deems
immediately important. A fool will use argumentative
efforts to the point of futility.
Arguing is the way of the unwise who regard others of such little worth
that they feel justified risking the creation of an enemy. Angry
persons are fools who just can't let go of that which may lead to struggle.
If in a relationship, discuss
in advance how you both are going to solve the problem of arguing.
Leonardo
da Vinci, artist, engineer, said."He
who truly knows has no occasion to shout."
Talk to others who care about
you regarding your involvement with this person you may be considering
as a mate. Get knowledge of your potential mate. One can love anyone they
decide to. Heartfelt longings for another you know is no good for you comes
from your own internal lack. Fill yourself with God who is within you and
you'll become a giver and not a taker who always needs something from without
before they feel that they are complete.
A discussion is the exchange
of ideas. An argument is the expressing of ignorance once emotions get
involved.
Dating:.When
you ask a girl out, be specific: "I'd like to take you out on a date to
the zoo and a picnic", "let's research a subject.(of
common interest).at
the library and have coffee or better yet, tea, after and discuss it",
"a Sunday drive in the country", "a hike". Not "let's get together" or
"what are you doing tonight?" or worse yet "are you doing anything
on Friday?".(who
wants to admit that they are not in demand).
If she likes you and the date sounds interesting and she is available at
that time, she'll go.
Like all things in life they
involve a process; in this case selecting a mate, one of the most important
things you can do. So we have these special
dating notes for you. Hey! You want to avoid a perfunctory
process.
Some women are good doers;
that is, they like to do things for you and that is fine; but also of consideration
here is; are they also just as interested in doing things with you?.Luke
10:38-42 "Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a
certain village. And a certain woman named Martha received him into her
house. And she had a sister called Mary, which also sat at Emmanuel's feet
and heard his word. But Martha was cumbered about much serving and came
to him and said, Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve
alone? Bid her therefore that she help me. And Emmanuel answered and said
unto her, Martha, Martha, you are careful and troubled about many things.
But one thing is needful and Mary has chosen that good part, which shall
not be taken away from her."
The Great Infinite One is
fully capable of providing the 'right one':.Proverbs
19:14. A special oneness can exist in a relationship with a male and
a female, both of whom are spiritually inclined:.2Corinthians
6:14.
The difference between maturity
and immaturity is what you look for in another. Will 'he's cute',
'he's got money', 'he dresses cool and has great friends' cut it when your
sick with your head in the toilet and need his comfort or need help changing
dirty diapers? If you want a lasting relationship, look for the enduring
character qualities. But no, we take, good looks over compassion, good
dancer over kindness, a perfect body over deep understanding, money over
sincerity, the higher socially connected over the volunteer, etc. And then
we wonder just why we have such a crappy relationship. Those
acting hastily according to the fantasies of their mind invite trouble.
Many girls lack maturity
and an interest in the deeper character qualities of the soul, which, by
the way, you'll see the good and bad of as the relationship progresses
over months and years. Shallow thinking people base their decisions mostly
upon externals, as this is what moves their emotions and affects their
heart. Do not get trapped by lacking discretion,
thus, cheating yourself:.Proverbs
11:22. Decisions made in haste
are often a waste!
What
do men and women want?
